The lack of recognition and a greater inferiority complex leads to a greater depressive time which was not noticeable as it was an early stage of personality development. It is true that love is a deciding factor in life which is the secret of all success.
Due to the inferiority complex developed in the mind there is a development of superiority complex. This is a clever play by the mind to ensure the survival of the organism. The inferiority complex develops due to the lack of recognition and love during the early stages of life where the actual development of the personality takes place. The lack of love and recognition creates a vacuum in the personality which is recognized by the subconscious mind. This leads to the subsequent development of a superiority complex as a total inferior feeling in the mind will lead to the total death of the mind. This leads to a complex situation of mental agony and suppression of feelings and finally finds a way out as a superiority complex.
What is the reason for the development of the superiority complex?
Superiority complex is a game developed by the subconscious mind to hide its own inferior feelings. Without this superiority complex the mind would crumble under its own inertia. For the survival the mind develops a superiority complex so that the mind can cling on to something for its survival. At some point survival alone does not help a mind and it needs a triumph in life as well and that is when it becomes aware of this superiority complex in itself.
How do we remove this superiority complex?
The superiority complex has developed due to the rise of an inferiority complex. The complete removal of the superiority complex is possible only by the removal of inferiority complex as well. Because the natural personality is devoid of these complexes.
What is the role of ego in the superior and inferior complexes of mind?
Ego is the origin of mind. Mind exists because there is an intellect and body. Without a body or the feeling of I there is no mind. Mind is the collective substratum of feelings, emotions, and inference drawn by the intellect towards these. Today we observe that humans collectively have a superior or inferior ego in the mind. The natural personality is something which is hidden in this complex mind. The self-realization process is nothing but the methodology of evolving the human from the inferior or superior mind and getting him towards the natural personality. To give an e.g., there was a cupid who loved his girl very much. He went to his girl and said he wants to marry her. He was standing outside the front door of the house and said “I love you and hence you should marry me”. The girl asked him to come back after finding the real love. After one year the cupid returns to the girl and said “You only exist and there is nothing else beyond that”, girl still asked the man to find the real love and come back. The man next time never went back. The gist of the story is that, “you”, exist because the existence of “I”. If we lose our “I” there is no existence of “you”. During the second time the cupid finds that he lost his “I”, and there is no you and therefore he does not returns. The story does not end with a positive note as expected by the general public and the truth is in actual love there is no “I” or “you”, because love is the marking of the surrender of ego. This is the same state as enshrined in the Indian Philosophy of Vedanta also known as “adwaita”; which means non duality and opposite is “dwaita” or duality. Duality is because of the existence of ego and when ego ends duality ends and what is left is non-duality. This is not experienced by a mere intellectual exercise. This is more like an art not a science. An art of realization and this is exactly what is called as self-realization. Ego if it needs to exist it needs associate a superior or inferior feeling with it. One can dream only of a perfect ego where there is no superior or inferior feeling attached to it. The very own fact that “I” exist is due to this superior or inferior feeling. No one can deny and the one who denies it knows very well in his subconscious mind that he has the same feeling.
Only exception to this rule would be a self-realized man. He is the only person who is devoid of an inferior or superior feeling. If someone truly classifies as one who is devoid of a superior or inferior feeling we can tell that he is a self-realized soul. The reason is that, only by knowing our true nature we can be devoid of an inferior or superior feeling. Much of the said theories are to be experienced and are useless if someone just takes this as an intellectual exercise. It is like talking about honey the qualities of it and how it is processed and everything else in the world except putting it in the mouth and tasting and everything else rather than tasting the honey is not a direct experience of honey. What really makes value are direct experiences. The problem is we are either under the subjugation of our past experiences which induces a prejudice towards future events or we have anxiety, both of them hamper our direct experiences. Our process of experience is a reflection of the external stimuli in our prejudiced mind or with our anxiety. Only a self-realized soul has the ability to have direct experience which devoid of prejudiced mind as well as anxiety.